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How did you feel with the people in the gang?
I felt close to guys in the gang--loved and secure--we were the best of
friends.
Respectfully - Oscar
California
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This is la Triste. People call me that is because the stuff I been
through! But answer me this question, “Do gangs fuck up your life”? Cause
since mine is I am thinking about getting jumped in. Cause I already claim
but I need some more advice before a make a big mistake? Please help!
Dear Triste,
It sounds like you are at a crossroads in your life, trying to make a
choice. No one but you can decide what you want to do. You started out by
saying that your life is really messed up. Obviously you do want it to get
better. To make the choice, look at people you know that have gotten into
gangs, that have been in them for quite awhile, and see if their lives got
better.
When I was young, I was drawn to committing crimes because that was an
easy quick fix. I never really thought about what would happen long term
or getting caught and I figured that was something I would worry about
later. I also believed that everyone else who did get caught was a lot
dumber or very unlucky to get caught. I found out that, in the long run, I
was totally wrong. At first, things were great. I had more money, was
looked up to by people, and I thought I had the easy solution to making it
big and doing it quickly. Then I was still stubborn, believing that I
would learn from my mistakes and not get caught the next time, or that it
was pure luck that the police got me and chances are that it would never
happen again.
Now that I have spent a good portion of my life in prison, I have come to
see that I was the dumb one. I hear about the kids I grew up with, the
ones that are really successful, I even read about. They have jobs,
family, houses, children of their own. Some went to college or into the
military; others played professional sports; and even though some did
nothing truly spectacular, at least they are free to do what they want to
do when they want to. Gangs or crime take that away. People in gangs do
what others tell them to do. Criminals live in prison eventually and do
what prison guards tell them to do, when they tell them to do it. I get a
shower when my cell opens for one, not when I feel like it. I go outside
at the time my door opens for that; if it is too cold or too hot or
raining, I can take my pick - stay in my cell or go out then. Many in
gangs get similar choices like beating someone up because they are told to
or committing a crime. All of these acts have consequences. When I was
young I never thought of them and figured that was something I would have
to deal with later. Now I am here and serving life, not knowing if I will
ever get out or when after being here over 20 years. I never thought about
what I would be doing when I was 35, 40, or 50.
I know now. If you live that long, it’s real easy to take the first step
in getting to where I am at. After you take it, it’s a lot harder to
change. I wish I had listened to the people who tried to tell me some of
the things I am telling you know. Make the right choice and think long
term, not for the easy solution like I did.
With best wishes - Al R.
New Jersey
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La Triste,
Yes, gangs do fuck up your life! Even if things in your life are not going
your way, joining a gang is not the answer. Everyone goes through hard
times and joining a gang won’t make things better in your life. In fact,
joining a gang would make things worse in the long run. My advice to you
is to stop claiming and stay away from the gang. Find friends that will
accept you for who you are because those are the people who will be there
for you when you really need them. Stay strong and things will get better.
Asking for advice is a good idea since you can get advice from someone who
has experience and will tell you how it really is. Stay strong.
Someone who cares
California
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