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I'm 13 years old I have a boyfriend and I'm pregnant he wants to stay in
his gang that he's in so the question is what should I do?
Babygirl
Dear Babygirl,
You’re having a baby and you’re so young yourself. You’re about to be
responsible for another life. If your boyfriend doesn’t want to get out of
his gang, then he’s not ready to be responsible for this new life you two
have created, which means that all of the responsibilities fall on you.
I’m sure you will have some help from your parents, but ultimately, the
responsibility is yours. You’ve got school - that you absolutely must
complete. Your boyfriend, as it stands, is going to be a terrible
distraction to you now. You have to be able to focus on your life and the
life of your child. You’re not going to be able to do that with any
positive results if you stay with your boyfriend and his gang. You have to
already know that. If he doesn’t leave his gang, you should not continue
to be with him. You have to think of your child first.
Sincerely - Blue Cloud
California
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Babygirl,
Get the hell away from him! Tell him it’s either you or the gang & when I
say gang, I mean gang mentality, the lifestyle and all the negativity.
Paradise
New Jersey
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Dear Babygirl,
Even though I don’t have any experience guiding young ladies, I can say
this: It’s gonna be hard enough to manage a life for the baby and
yourself. A banger for a boo is not a bonus. Even though I can’t offer
much more than that as advice, I can share this with you: Often here in
prison, I will witness a guy in distress. Almost always someone else will
jump in no matter the risk and say, “That’s my boy, my man, or my brother
and I can’t let it go down like that.” I always turn away and to the
nearest person I say, “If he was truly a friend, a boy, or a brother, he
wouldn’t have you in this mess”! That also means he wouldn’t be involved
because he knows it will somehow affect others at some time, negatively…
Michael
New Jersey
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Babygirl,
You are so young sweetie. You have put on woman’s shoes. Are you ready for
this walk?
Do you believe the person he is qualifies him to be the man and the father
needed by both of you (yourself and the baby)? How old is he? Have you
been going to the doctor? Do you have support from your family? You’re so
young and this is serious commitment for life. You need to put your
priorities in order. How are you gonna support the baby if the father
decides to get the stepping? What about talking to a counselor or social
worker at school to help you set a plan?
Bibi
New Jersey
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If you plan to have this baby, you better finish school. Get into GED
classes. Get some vocational training, because welfare is not enough and
it will always lead you to get what you need by other means. You may think
it’s cute to have a baby-father but I wouldn’t even tell him unless he’s
ready to step up to the plate.
Maria
New Jersey-
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